The Heartbreak of a Childs Death

How to Cope With This Loss

Sadly, every single day of the year and every hour of every day there is a child who is lost to a family that leaves the parents with this most devastating form of heartache imaginable.

This piece of life’s puzzle – the really jagged piece is one that doesn’t and shouldn’t fit into the symphony of life as we know it. For the survivors, the ultimate pain, the valley left in the soul and a loss of a life short lived are simply pain thresh holds that cannot be measured nor explained.

As tragic as this event is, the greater loss would be to not learn from this and to grow from this and to care for others who are also hurting.

Some pertinent lessons learned from other parents are shared right here for you to absorb.

Even though the parents have suffered the same loss, and they may have been partners for many years, the inner feelings and sense of loss are dealt with completely differently by each individual. Neither of the couples pain is greater than the other – they are both immense.

It is vitally important that the couple have an active and ongoing support system. Of course, unless you have been through this tragic event – you cannot possibly relate to the feelings of loss.

If there are siblings, be sure too address their needs as well – they have lost greatly also. Don’t forget the relatives as well – especially the grandparents – who have lost that special bond, and have seen the horrible grief of their own child in the process while they are dealing with this loss.

Close friends – let them help – this is the time when you really need to open up and let your friends take care of you. Just as you would for them – open your heart and mind and take as much support as you need.

As you pass through this tragic gateway and start on the pathway to healing from this gaping hole that is in your heart and your soul, remember that love plus time fosters healing. One day in the future we will then grieve because we loved the one who has died as a result of the strength of our community and heal because the dream is to love again.

With strength and love to you at this time.

Peace

Bruce Hultgren

Bruce Hultgren has personal experiences of loss and heartache. As a result, he has made it his mission since 1999 to reach out and help others who suffer loss in their life journey.

Bruce is the creator of www.pocketangels.com – a collection of pocket angels with verses and poems to help you get through life’s challenges, celebrations and journey.