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The Three Mourning Stages That Will Help Me Deal With My Bereavement

The grieving process for all of us is completely different. As different as each person is to the next. Therefore to try and give a linear piece of advice is not a simple nor advised option. However, to break the process down into stages or steps is very helpful.
So important is process of dealing with mourning and dealing with death and bereavement, we should make time to give ourselves the opportunity to go through these stages. Failing to do this may lay down some problems later in our lives.
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What are the 3 stages?

Stage 1 – Disbelief and Shock

Did this really happen? No… really? I can’t accept that - no. Whether this is hours or weeks, it may come upon you in varying degrees. How did they die? What was our relationship like? The level of numbness you feel after you’ve lost someone may be directly attributed to the answers to the above questions and statements.

Family and friends can help us come through this stage into a period of mourning at the funeral or similar gathering.

Stage 2 – Intense or acute mourning.

Some people feel physical pain as great waves of grief wash over us and cannot seem to pass us. A pain that fills us completely and may push us to withdraw. The difficulty in sleeping and possible feelings of being lonely and upset may also cause us to question our mortality and our own death in the future.

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Stage 3. Our grief is acknowledged

Once we understand and acknowledge our grief, the journey commencing with the pain of losing someone eventually turns into a journey of developing memories of fondness. The person we have loved is never forgotten and as we begin to find ourselves again, we begin to move away from breaking down memories of the past and moving forwards into a positive future.

Conclusion:

The amount of time each of us suffers during these stages is unique and is also affected by the relationship we had with the loved one lost. Even as we recognize that our lives will never be the same after the event, most of us can find our desire to participate in life again following our periods of mourning and intense grief.

If you feel you can’t get to this stage without help, please don’t hesitate to seek professional help.

 



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Bruce Hultgren was suddenly affected by the tragic loss of his Sister in a plane crash in 1999. Since that date, Bruce has dedicated his time to helping the millions of people around the world who meet these emotions on their journey. Dealing with Death, Funerals, Grief and Dying. Now an accomplished writer on the subject, Bruce has started the FuneralMemorials website to help families celebrate, remember and go through this most trying of times together. He has also discovered a gift to write heartfelt verses that can be found in his PocketAngels range.

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