Those of us who share the brunt of an unexpected death will search for a Death Memorial that will help us find peace and strength at this point in our life journey.

Although the term "Death Memorial" may seem harsh to many - instead of just "Memorial" - the harsh reality is we are all searching for that special Memorial item that will transcend this time and allow us to heal, to put the pieces of our lives back together and to help keep the memory alive in our minds and hearts.

For the survivor of these events, there is a special pain that is unique to each of us. And yes, a death without warning is one of the hardest of all to cope with.

While the shock and numbness sets in and the constant repeating of the phrase in your head of "This can't be true" rings over and over and the devastating impact takes it's full control - all you really want is to wake from this nightmare to find the world is still full of the one's you love.

Even after the rituals of death have passed, these feelings of unreality will persist.
The sadness, rage and senseless injustice for those who have suffered this loss through violence, the rage and sadness may be simply too much for your spirit to contain.
With feelings of being powerless, extremely vulnerable and guilt for not being able to protect your loved one (however unrealistic these thoughts are) - the actual chaos and pure depth of these feelings may convince you that you are going a little crazy!
Some articles will be following this one to help you through and to share but in the meantime - please take these points to help you on your way.

• Don't be afraid of your feelings
• Bring Closure to any unfinished business
• Find support in sharing
• Be patient with yourself and others
• Try new routines
• Give yourself permission to feel good again
• Take heart

Without your loved one right now, life's journey is agonizing and with some adjustment this journey will make the walk a little kinder.

Realize that the pain of your loss is because you were fortunate enough to have a bond and love that was so strong with this person, and that the time you had together were cherished by both of you.

This doesn't mean you will forget your loved one as this person will be with you forever. The connection, the love, the friendship and relationship will automatically guide you to seek a death memorial that will not only serve as a keepsake and memorial of this person, but will help you in your journey through the lessons of loss that will help you gain a better understanding of the meaning of life.

Bruce Hultgren

Bruce Hultgren was suddenly affected by the tragic loss of his Sister in a plane crash in 1999. Since that date, Bruce has dedicated his time to helping the millions of people around the world who meet these emotions on their journey. Dealing with Death, Funerals, Grief and Dying. Now an accomplished writer on the subject, Bruce has started the FuneralMemorials website to help families celebrate, remember and go through this most trying of times together. He has also discovered a gift to write heartfelt verses that can be found in his PocketAngels range.

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